This is an awesome story told by my dear friend Dr Tony Victor, about his two year old grandaughter.
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Do you ever lose the cool with your kids? Discover Val Mullally’s Ten Parenting Tips on how to let f go parental stress and be the parent you want to be.
My son was nearly 18 before I had an ‘AHA’ moment about how I’d been missing the boat re: what made him FEEL loved. I’ve shared this concept with parents at many workshops, and they always find it hugely helpful. Heres’ DAY ONE of my Valentine’s ‘Loving Your Child’ series.
Pay attention to how your child explains his successes and failures. She may need your guidance in modifying that view.
Learning how to deal with mistakes and setbacks is extremely worthwhile throughout life. There has been an overemphasis on immediate achievement, to the exclusion of the value of effort and hard work. When children experience frustration over their attempts at a new skill, the aware parent can use this as an opportunity to persevere.
Even positive labels like ‘good girl’ can be unhelpful for our children. Val Mullally discusses the dangers of labelling our children.
A Young Mother’s Experience: I was aware that something was wrong when Hannah was 24 hours old. On being discharged from the hospital we had been given a checklist of symptoms that required immediate contact with the hospital. In the past 6 hours Hannah’s nappies had become offensive to anyone with a nose in the surrounding neighbourhood! Following the hospital’s instructions we made contact.
Parenting Tip: Encourage your child’s efforts rather than just the finished product. Why this matters.
At this festive time of year ‘spoiling’ is often on our minds. Parents query, ‘I always want to give my children what I never had. But how do I balance that so they don’t end up being spoiled brats?’
So what is a ‘spoilt’ child? We talk about fruit being spoilt when …
