The Koemba Forum
Parenting Tip: Encourage your child’s efforts rather than just the finished product. Why this matters.
At this festive time of year ‘spoiling’ is often on our minds. Parents query, ‘I always want to give my children what I never had. But how do I balance that so they don’t end up being spoiled brats?’
So what is a ‘spoilt’ child? We talk about fruit being spoilt when …
“I hate you!” Spat from the mouth of the toddler or teenager, those words can erode the confidence of any parent.
It’s tempting to react. Fight back or disappear into our own shell when so blatantly under attack.
Anita’s song captures all our mothering worries, whether we say them out loud or if they’re the thoughts chasing through our heads. Mothers seem to be programmed to be continually asking questions about the child’s welfare.
We forget these questions have a ‘sell-by’ date.
Pay attention to how your child explains his successes and failures. She may need your guidance in modifying that view.
Learning how to deal with mistakes and setbacks is extremely worthwhile throughout life. There has been an overemphasis on immediate achievement, to the exclusion of the value of effort and hard work. When children experience frustration over their attempts at a new skill, the aware parent can use this as an opportunity to persevere.
When Emotions Get Heated
‘Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.’ (Albert Einstein)
We may be stuck in repeating unhelpful patterns of behaviour in our Parenting. Here’s how to make a significant shift when emotions get heated.
‘Controversial Bracelets banned at Fermoy schools’ (‘The Avondhu’ Thursday Sep 23, 2010)
The photo showed cute, colourful bracelets like any little girl might be wearing. There are the playground crazes, but this is not as innocuous as marbles or card swapping. The name rings the warning bells …
As Parents there’s times when we really need our children to listen to our instructions. Parent Coach Val Mullally gives some practical inisghts and tips on how to talk so kids will be able to HEAR what we’re trying to communicate – and respond.