Worried because your child won’t talk when you’re concerned because you’re child is unhappy. Parenting tips from Parent Coach val Mullally.
‘I don’ t want to go to school’ / ‘I hate school’ or whatever version you’re hearing, can fill a parent with dread.
Val Mullally shares 6 unhelpful tactics parents use – and shares alternatives that focus on creating long-term communication and building children’s self esteem.
My daughter has never failed at anything. She’s extremely bright; everything seems easy to her. I worry about what will happen when she takes more challenging classes. How will she handle it if she finds something that is not so easy for her?
Pay attention to how your child explains his successes and failures. She may need your guidance in modifying that view.
Parenting Tip: Encourage your child’s efforts rather than just the finished product. Why this matters.
Learning how to deal with mistakes and setbacks is extremely worthwhile throughout life. There has been an overemphasis on immediate achievement, to the exclusion of the value of effort and hard work. When children experience frustration over their attempts at a new skill, the aware parent can use this as an opportunity to persevere.
Anita’s song captures all our mothering worries, whether we say them out loud or if they’re the thoughts chasing through our heads. Mothers seem to be programmed to be continually asking questions about the child’s welfare.
We forget these questions have a ‘sell-by’ date.
Supermum runs round doing everything for this child. Imagine this same child on her first day at school. Where’s Mummy?
Today in ‘The Guardian’ Zoe Williams’ is fed up with the clashes of parenting ‘gurus’. Parenting is tough enough without this type of “’dagger-on-a thread’ hectoring”. Here’s my different, and potentially more helpful perspective.
Johnny’s freckled face frowns with concentration.
His wet tongue protrudes slightly in the corner of his mouth.
His fingers carefully move the little red Lego block into position.
Almost finished!
