Anita’s song captures all our mothering worries, whether we say them out loud or if they’re the thoughts chasing through our heads.
‘Are you sick? Are you well?’
Mothers seem to be programmed to be continually asking questions about the child’s welfare.
You’d think Anita’s talking to a two year old.
We forget these questions may be about our need and not helpful for the child .
Keep listening to her verbal torrent in her three minute ‘Mum Song’ rant- this is obviously a much older child.
Anita’s tumbled into a parent trap.
If we ignore the developmental stage of the child we’re ignoring what they most need.
Quentin Blake’s ‘Zagazoo‘ is a fabulous book for a light-hearted look at developmental stages –a parenting book disguised as a child’s book! What’s helpful for the toddler or the preschooler is not necessarily appreciated by the child as s/he becomes more competent. Result – frustration on both sides.
Be aware of your child’s level of development. When we give instructions and comments that are past their ‘sell-by-date’ we’re throwing verbal garbage at our children.
Check through your daily interactions.
What space could open up in your relationship if you put a plug in your verbosity?