Just a few days till Valentine’s and I’ve been tweeting that we tend to give to our loved ones what makes US feel loved. But it’s possible that your child’s ‘love language’ is different to yours. So whilst you love you child, s/he isn’t necessarily EXPERIENCING your love as you intend. Here’s what I was tweeting today:
Had very scratchy relationship with my 17 yr old till I realized something hugely important. We have different love languages.
What makes me feel loved doesn’t necessarily make my child feel loved.
Learning his love language significantly improved our relationship.
My teen son appreciated me inviting him out for a cup of coffee – he chose when / where. Reconnection happened with time just for him.
How do you know if your child’s primary love language is Quality Time? Listen for: ‘Just you and me’ & ‘Remember when…’
How about planning 1 to 1 time with at least 1 of ur children this wkend? When ur child’s emotional cup is full – home’s more harmonious.
1-to-1 time with mum / daughter or dad /son tends to happen. But ur daughter needs time with dad & ur son needs time with mum.
So many positive memories can be made by ‘helping dad’ in the workplace.
Noticing what ur child loves can be key in knowing how to ensure he FEELS loved.
For some children quality 1-1 time is essential – it’s what makes them feel loved. What makes YOUR child feel loved?
For a child whose primary love language is quality time, ‘time out’ can feel soul-wounding.
I’ll be posting on a different aspect of ‘what makes your child feel loved’ tomorrow. For more helpful tips and insights please check back here tomorrow or join me on Twitter.