The young dad, standing on the street corner is greeted with loud ʻHow ya doin?ʼ and friendly jostling by a group of his peers, all holding the pose of ʻSingle Manʼ except this man who is toting a toddler in a push chair. The little one seems overwhelmed by the sudden flurry and begins to whimper.
ʻWhatʼs up with ya then?ʼ and Dad lifts him out of the pushchair and onto the ground. The toddler takes takes a few hesitant steps then starts to cry. Dadʼs caught between wanting to chat with his friends and his responsibility for the little one.
ʻAll right then.ʼ He picks him up and puts him back in the pushchair. The child struggles and wails. ʻAll right, ya want your mam!ʼ says Dad. He takes his mobile phone out of his pocket and gives it to the child. The child stops crying and puts the phone to his ear. Heʼs hoping to hear his motherʼs voice but - nothing.
The child roars and flings the phone. ʻLook what ya did! Ya broke my phone!ʼ
The child is now wailing, nothing is stopping his tears. ʻYa wonʼt get the best of me!ʼ exclaims the Dad. Whatʼs needed for Dadʼs to step into effective parenting and meet the toddlerʼs needs?
Welcome to day three of twelve days of Christmas:
Letters from Santa and his North Pole team re How to Have a Happy Christmas Despite Freezing Financial Conditions.
It’s a fantastic Irish summer day and everyone seems to be walking along the beach front.
A young family is walking towards me, when suddenly the mother says to the pre-school age boy.
‘Don’t jump on it.’
Her words transform him into a guided missile that locks onto the drink can lying on the pavement.
In a sec. he’s jumped firmly on it, squashing it in the middle.
Frustration in her voice, the mother resorts to sarcasm.
‘Oh great, why don’t you dance on it!’
The boy, of course, complies! Waving his arms, wiggling his bottom as he performs multiple jumps on the can.
So what’s my response as a Parent Coach? ....
When Emotions Get Heated
‘Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.’ (Albert Einstein)
We may be stuck in repeating unhelpful patterns of behaviour in our Parenting. Here's how to make a significant shift when emotions get heated.
Anita’s song captures all our mothering worries, whether we say them out loud or if they’re the thoughts chasing through our heads. Mothers seem to be programmed to be continually asking questions about the child’s welfare.
We forget these questions have a ‘sell-by’ date.
